I see you. A letter for parents of PDAers

I see you…

I see you leaving your career or making drastic changes to a role that can fit around life.

I see you working on yourself in counselling.

I see the monumental effort it takes to keep your own nervous system in check.

I see you giving up your hobbies.

I see you weighing up if the fall out is worth having some time away. 

I see you monitoring your child’s needs so closely, every minute of the day.

I see you packing all the things to make sure an outing is successful.

I see you cancelling on a much needed catch up with a friend when it’s too hard for your child to get out of the house.

I see you stumbling over your words as you figure out the right ways to advocate for your child’s needs.

I see you struggling to let the unsolicited advice and judgmental comments slide.

I see you researching and learning.

I see you putting in the effort to re-direct, diffuse, play, guide and encourage.

I see you filling out paperwork, booking therapy appointments, making meeting times.

I see you struggling to be believed and understood.

I see you making sure siblings have a chance to feel special too.

I see the unconditional love you have for your kids.

I see the monumental personal growth.

I see you embracing a new way of life.

I see you prioritising what is truly important.

I see you keeping your own tally of wins.

I see you doing the most important work of your life.

A life where your kids feel safe, feel loved, feel fulfilled, and feel proud of who they are.

I see you.